“But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.”
“Malice” is the third sin to put off like dirty clothes.
“Malice” is the desire to hurt others. This is badness in quality (opposite of excellence), a vicious character (Rom. 1:29; 1 Cor. 5:8; 14:20; Eph. 4:31; Tit. 3:3; 1 Pet. 2:1; 2:16). It is the quality of wickedness, with the implication of that which is harmful and damaging. “Malice” is a feeling of hostility and strong dislike, with a possible implication of desiring to do harm — “hateful feeling.” “Together with every hateful feeling” (Eph. 4.31).
”Malice” is the word for bad, badness. This is vice in all its forms. It is a bad heart, a mind oriented to evil and malignity. It is bent on harming other people.
Malice may be concealed, anger, and wrath. It also may be congealed anger — anger that is carried along for a period of time. This anger tries to get even after allowing anger to lie in mind and after explosions of anger. It is the ill-will remaining in the heart. It is poisonous thinking toward others. Malice loves to emit its septic bilge into hurting others. This evil needs to be put off like a dirty garment.
Malice is the desire to hurt others; it a form of depravity that directs evil at others.
Malice is the desire to poke someone in the nose or slap them silly. When anger no longer works and tantrums no longer get attention, malicious people turn to behavior patterns by which, in a depraved sense, they try to hurt others. This is like drug addiction, where they use substitutes for their frustrations. This is also how people become addicted to speed and acid.
A woman who would never think of getting into any form of promiscuity becomes angry at her husband. First, she gets angry and then throws tantrums. That does not work. Now she is desperate. What can she do? The best way she can hurt her husband is to have an affair. She enters into this affair not because she loves or even likes this person; she does it because she wants to hurt her husband.
The sequence is anger that becomes wrath, and wrath becomes malice.