“Bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.”
“even as Christ forgave you”
To forgive as Christ forgave does not mean that the Christian is to become a doormat. It does mean that when we have a complaint against someone, we approach the problem with a certain bearing — an attitude of forgiveness. Jesus Christ is the standard for non retaliation. As Christ forgave so we are to forgive. The phrase “even as” indicates the standard.
Jesus could have retaliated against the Scribes and Pharisees, the people who wronged him. He did not seek any form of retaliation against them. He would forget their rejection and insults. He treated them on the basis of his character which was oriented to grace. Grace becomes overtly mercy. He did not attempt to ruin, hurt or destroy them. He did not try to penalize them in any way. He did, however, confront them.
Jesus Christ is the standard for forgiveness.
God does not want us to wait until people who have hurt us come crawling. He wants us to forgive immediately. If we do not forgive immediately, we will end up very tight people. We will become bitter and upset. We may even become hysterical. We will eventually become vicious and vindictive. We will develop terrible behavior patterns. We may end up screaming and throwing tantrums.
There is no place in the Christian life for hysteria, whiners, cry babies, tantrum tillies or for any type of panic experience. That is why Jesus is the standard to show us how to treat obnoxious people.
We are to forgive as Christ forgave. Christ forgave immediately; he did not go into a tizzy; he did not whine or cry; he did not fall apart. He did not use abnormal behavior patterns seeking revenge to hurt and destroy.
This is the only way to keep from wearing out your transmission. When we get our transmission out of line, distortions will occur. We may end up with illnesses and psychosomatic illnesses. We will develop all sorts of problems. We may get ulcers or break out in rashes. The reason? We are out of kilter. God designed the body to go with the soul. The soul is the transmission of life. When the transmission strips its gears, then our lives do not go anywhere.
We cannot afford to harbor resentment against anyone, anytime for anything. If we forgive as Christ forgave, our mentality will be free from mental attitude sins. If we allow hatred, bitterness, antagonism, vindictiveness, implacability or jealousy to get hold of us, then our soul will become distorted. We are not like Christ in exercising forgiveness.