“But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.”
“which is the bond of perfection”
The word “bond” means to bind together, to unite. In this context, “bond” means a girdle. This is not the kind of girdle that redesigns the individual that wears it!. In the first century both men and women wore girdles. Among people of the Near East the final piece of dress was the girdle or sash. This was a universal piece of clothing. This garment held together all other pieces of clothing.
The “bond” was a broad belt that held all clothes in place. Every soldier wore this broad belt to hold his clothes together and a scabbard to hold his sword and other things. There he carried his rations and breastplate. The “bond” or girdle was a foundational garment that holds all garments together. Love holds everything together. Love binds all the graces together and holds them in their proper place as a girdle. Love ties the other graces together like a broad belt or girdle.
Love is unconditional acceptance of others. The Christian is “dearly beloved” (v.12). As people loved by God, we love others. Since we are dear to the heart of God our hearts should be dear toward others. We should love like he loves. We are never more like God than when we forgive out of love someone who trespasses against us.
A person who loves combines all characteristics of the Christian life together. Without love, the characteristics of verses 12 and 13 cannot hold in place. The girdle gave beauty and composure to all the graces. It also gave ease of movement to perform necessary tasks of life.
“Perfection” is the state of perfection implying the process of maturity. It denotes a fulfillment, completion, perfection, an end accomplished as the effect of that process (Heb. 7:11; Lk. 1:45). This word for perfection stresses the actual accomplishment of the end in view (here; Heb. 6:1; Judges 9:16,19; Prov. 11:3; Jer. 2:2). This is maturity in thoughts and behavior (Heb. 6:1). Love binds the characteristics of maturity together in harmony. Love is the perfecting quality. It makes for maturity. It integrates it altogether into a harmonious whole.
Love gives unity to all characteristics of the Christian life and is therefore the mark of maturity.
How does love tie together such a grace as forgiveness? As long as we have a bitter spirit, an unforgiving spirit, we are out of harmony with God. God will disqualify us from spiritual work. God cannot do spiritual work with unspiritual people. If a grudge, grievance or rankling feeling lurks in our hearts, we do not love (James 3:14).
We cannot nurse a grudge and love at the same time. That is why love ties forgiveness into our lives. Granted, someone snubbed you. Sure, someone hurt you. We are still at fault because forgiveness is not forthcoming. Love will cause us to forgive.
God does not call upon us to love with our own anemic, synthetic, saccharine, imitation love. He calls upon us to love with his love, out of his love. Inevitably we will not approve of other people. If we love with the love God has given us, a love based on the Word of God, we can love unlovely people. This is a love formed by God’s Word. It will help us love others who do not see things the way we do.