“Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.”
“Children, obey your parents”
Disobedient children are the cause of much of the strife and division in the home. Some teens become very rebellious in their late teens. If they cannot accept the authority of their parents, then they need to hit the road! When children leave their homes, then they establish a new home and authority.
Without divine institution, there is no freedom. There is no freedom without principles. To maintain freedom, we need law. If there is no traffic light, there is no freedom to drive with safety. Law protects freedom. Children need to learn respect for authority so that the maximum number of people can operate in freedom. Respect for authority and property are basic concepts of life.
The two principles of freedom and authority are not separate. Without the authority of divine institutions, there is no freedom. Children mistake exercise of authority for thwarting of their freedom to do things for themselves.
Parents who gossip and malign authority destroy the principle of authority to their children. Even if the President does not follow biblical principles, respect for the office is crucial. This principle carries over in many phases of life, whether it be athletics, education, or any form of administration. They learned the principle of disobedience from their parents.
If children do not respect the parent, coach, or teacher’s authority, then one day, the police officer may bring him to the door. The parent has not taught the principle of authority.
Children who attend church must learn to respect the authority of the church. If the parents gossip and malign those in authority, then how can they expect their children to do differently?
The first chapter of Romans sets before us the devolution of mankind. One characteristic of this devolution is disobedience to parents,
“being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness; they are whisperers, backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents” (Romans 1:29,30).
2 Timothy 3:1,2 warns that a characteristic of the last days is disobedience to parents,
“But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy.”
Authority gives the child something to stand upon. It gives him security. The parent cannot yield to the authority of the child. Much authority has shifted in our generation to children who do not have the maturity to make sound judgments. That is why so many children are insecure.
Disobedience violates divine institutions.
Some children assume superiority over their parents. They flaunt independence from their parents. Unregulated lives can lead to destructive behavior patterns.
Nowhere does it say in the Bible, “Obey if the parents comply with the children’s plans.” Children must submit to the policies of the parents if they operate under the divine institution of the family properly.
In every young person’s heart is a spirit of rebellion. We are born that way. We are born with an anarchistic spirit. We want to reign on the throne. “I will do what I please, and the devil takes the hindmost. No one is going to tell me what to do.”
If we do not learn how to submit to authority when we are young, big trouble lies ahead. If we do not obey our parents, then we will not obey the coach. We will not be a team player. If we do not obey our parents, we will not obey the law or law enforcement authorities.
It is natural for us to disobey authority because we want our own way. We want to be our own God. No one likes authority. Today people hate authority. Much music of our day expresses the value of independence and freedom.
If you want security and order in your life, obey your parents.