“Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.”
“for this is well pleasing to the Lord”
Obedience is the key to a young person’s relationship to the Lord. If a young person disobeys his parents, he will experience a deep discontent for he will break his relationship with the Lord.
God marks obedient young people with special approbation or favor. Obedience within the divine institution of the family pleases the Lord. In Ephesians 6:1 God calls obedience to parents “proper,” “just” or “right.”
Ephesians 6:2 adds that it is not enough that children obey their parents but that they honor them. Children must esteem their parents if they please God. This is the first commandment with promise (Eph. 6:2), that is, it will be well with children and they will live long on the earth. This is the fifth of the ten commandments.
Obedience to parents is commendable to the Lord. The child should not worry about justice or injustice or malpractice. The child should do this as unto the Lord.
The words “well pleasing” is translated “acceptable” in Romans 12:1,
“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.”
This word is also found in Hebrews 13:2,
“make you complete in every good work to do His will, working in you what is well pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory forever and ever. Amen.”
If you really want to please the Lord, obey your parents. This is one of the few places in Scripture that the Bible states something as pleasing the Lord.
One reason obedience pleases the Lord is that parental authority gives security to the child. If a child does as he likes, there is no security in that. If a child does as he ought, that brings the security he needs. We are free from disease when we obey the laws of health. We cannot expect mental health if we violate the laws of mental hygiene. Authority serves the young person’s best interests. Mastery of self is possible only through yielding to authority.
Children should grow progressively out from under the absolute authority of the parents if the home is healthy. As a baby, the child should be under the absolute authority of the parent because the child has no capacity for decision making. As the child gains some understanding of the laws of life, the parent gives away some authority. Later as the child learns to independently apply these laws as managed by himself the parent gives more authority to the young person.
Parents who are healthy welcome the use of healthy authority in the young person. Eventually the young person may develop his own authority (by character) in a number of areas of his life. The older a young person becomes the more independence he should have if all things are equal.
Obedience to parents is a commendable ideal to God.
Do you want the special favor of God? Obey your parents.