“Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.”
“lest they become discouraged”
The word “discouraged” means to become disheartened and hence lack motivation. This is the only occurrence of this word in the New Testament. One of the reasons for rebellion in some teenagers is that they are discouraged by most of things they have done in life. They have not had much encouragement from their parents.
God wants us to encourage our children. He wants us to praise them for what they do right. Constant criticism will discourage them. They may become disheartened in their attempts to please their parents.
There are two ways to ruin children in a hurry.
1. Some parents make children feel guilty for something they are not doing. That is no way to get your way in anything much less with our children. This tampers with the soul of the child. Instead of operating on proper norms for life, children will operate on guilt feelings. These children will grow up with guilt complexes. It is important to control children without making them feel guilty.
2. Other parents nag their children for just about everything. They will nag about any little thing…nag, nag, nag. When a big issue comes the child will not hear the parent because he is dulled by constant nagging. When the big issue comes the parent has to shout so loud the child cannot hear them. This is especially true with teenagers. “Comb your hair Susie! Comb…” When the big issue comes she will not hear her parent. It is the same old stuff. She will not pay her parent any attention. Some parents are natural-born naggers. They lose all effectiveness in parenting.
God’s primary role for the parent is to encourage their children.
Parents, are you encouraging your children?