Philemon1:9 “…yet for love’s sake I rather appeal to you—being such a one as Paul, the aged, and now also a prisoner of Jesus Christ…”
yet for love’s sake I rather appeal to you—
Paul sent the runaway slave Onesimus back to Philemon from Rome with a letter to Philemon. Paul makes his appeal to Philemon to forgive Onesimus on the basis of Paul’s love for Onesimus and Philemon’s love for Paul. Paul does not pull rank but makes an appeal based on his status as a troubadour for the cause of Christ.
Love is a much greater motivator than coercion.
Love goes much further in negotiations than acid. We have the carnal option to scream and hostilely set forth our case but it will most likely boomerang on us.