6 if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination.
The following list characterizes the life of a “blameless” leader.
the husband of one wife,
The leader must not be a polygamist. He must be the husband of one wife at a time. He should be a one woman’s man. Sexual fidelity in marriage is required of an elder.
This phrase does not mean that a single person cannot lead. That would disqualify the apostle Paul himself.
A Christian leader must carry a high sexual reputation.
Christian leaders must be especially careful to maintain their reputation for sexual purity. The issue then is the perception of blame. The most important idea to keep in mind when it comes to sexual accusation is the reputation of our Lord. If a person has a reputation for sexual dalliance, he should not consider himself for leadership.
There is significant debate as to whether the phrase “the husband of one wife” prohibits someone who has been divorced to serve in leadership. To draw such a conclusion from this one phrase is to over interpret the concept. However, the individual should take into consideration the perception among the congregation should they regard him as blameful.
Yet, if the perception is that this is not a problem, then there should be no reason for him not to serve. This is a matter of judgment and not a concrete rule. Additionally, nothing should keep this person from serving outside the formal structure of the church should he be deemed not qualified to serve in the church.
There is nothing in this passage that says single men cannot lead.